Red Flag Detector

Spot mixed signals and low effort before you invest months in the wrong person.

What it does

  • Names behaviours with evidence from your messages.
  • Separates awkward from actually concerning.
  • Gives a clear read on whether to lean in or step back.

Example

You might paste

They cancel twice, say they're 'bad at texting', but send long voice notes when they want something.

Aura might say

Flags: intermittent reinforcement (hot/cold), accountability gaps ('bad at texting' as permanent excuse), effort asymmetry. Verdict: Not necessarily abusive, but the pattern rewards your chasing. Ask for one concrete plan; if it doesn’t land, treat silence as data.
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